I Can't Believe This Is Happening to Me...Again! "Why does this keep happening to me?" is the question most commonly asked by those entering psychotherapy for the first time. Whether we can't stop dating the wrong guy or taking the wrong job, gaining and losing weight, or getting into debt, it is the repeating patterns in our lives that cause us the most pain and frustration. Now author and psychologist Alan Downs shows us all how we can break these cycles...for good!
After fifteen years of working with people from all walks of life -- including executives, homemakers, young adults, and the elderly -- Dr. Downs has identified seven crises that every one of us will face at some point during our lifetime. In
Why Does This Keep Happening to Me?, Downs uses his revolutionary Crisis Quiz to show us which of these crises is at the root of our repeating behavior. Downs includes quizzes, exercises, and real-life examples to help us resolve universal issues, including
- Who will I share my life with?
- Why can't I believe in myself?
- How can I become my own person?
- What does it all mean?
With wisdom and compassion, Downs leads us from recognition to recovery, showing us how we can apply our new knowledge and triumph over destructive patterns, breaking the cycle once and for all.
Addressing the question from a fresh and exciting new angle, this book uncovers what lies at the core of dangerous stuck-in-the-rut behavior. The root causes are sorted out, and straightforward methods of dealing with them are explained.
Martha Finney coauthor of
Find Your Calling, Love Your Life So many of us feel that we're under a spell, and that if we could only break it somehow, we could also break through to our true potential and the happiness we've longed for. Sensitive, wise, and smart, Alan Downs shows us how to break those spells once and for all, end self-defeating patterns, and step forward toward the joy that's been waiting for us all along.