One of the more frustrating experiences we can have is the feeling of being
misunderstood. All relationships require levels of understanding for them
to be ful lling and satisfying. All relationships require communication.
We all communicate. However, we are not all understood - at least not as often as we
would like. Fast moving life-styles, constant exposure to media, changes occurring at
break-neck speeds all seem to leave the ability to watch, look, and listen to each other
more challenging than ever before. We are overly distracted, self-oriented, cynical, and
desensitized. We have learned to tune each other out. Having a great deal of knowledge
does not always translate into the ability to truly understand. If we would spend the time
and slow down the process, we would have a better chance of developing understanding
and wisdom.
We are ensnared in our ability to understand by a web of the modern fast moving
lifestyle. As a result, our unconscious response to relationship building is, "Who has
time for that?" As a seasoned minister and counselor, who is rooted in a deep spiritual
foundation, Dr. Shaw o ers this book as a beacon of hope for behavioral change. I invite
you to delve deeper into this timely, provocative treatise to nd out why we all aim to
be, and need to be, understood.
-Bishop Adria n Starks, World Victory International Christian Center, Greensboro, NC
Dr. Shaw has authored a signi cant contribution to the eld of interpersonal relationships.
Masterfully weaving profound Biblical truths together with deep psychological insights,
he creates a beautiful mosaic of relational learning, healing and growth. is outstanding
book leads the reader into a powerful process of personal discipleship and practical
development in their relationship with God, themselves and others.
-Jared Pingleton, Psy.D., Vice President of Professional Development, American
Association of Christian Counselors, Forest, Virginia